I find whenever I need to get something done or go some
place if I make it exciting or I sound excited around Quinn she feels the same
way! Picking her up can be hard
because she may not want to come or play shy but if I sound excited or tell her
things we well be doing she get very excited and jumps right in the car. When you show your child how excited
you are they see that and trust you, then they get excited as well. It is easier to attract them with sugar
than vinegar. Now I know some
day’s it not easy, some days it may just down right impossible to feel
excited. You pick up your child
then feel she is gone soon after.
Being a single parent that has visitation rights sucks, I’m sorry it
just does but we has parents have to just realize it is what it is right now
and keep moving forward.
I also find excitement can help if you can’t do something
and they want to. For example most
of the times I pick her up she wants to go out to dinner and well I can’t. So I try to explain something else we
will be doing like playing at the house or going to a playground. It works sometimes, other times
not. Some days she really wants to
go out to eat! Some times I just
tell her straight up why we can’t do something or if we have to do something
also. However there is nothing
like seeing your child’s eyes light up though when they get to get that time
with you. Not to long ago I was
getting Quinn out of the car and she looked at the back yard and wanted a
fire. I said well we have to get fire
pit built. She asked if we can get
one. I told her I was building one
this summer and we would have fires by it! She got so excited and happy! “Yea, were going to get a fire pit and have fires and have
snacks!” I just laughed and said
yes now lets get inside…
I can’t wait to get the back yard setup and have that pit
ready. She is going to be so
excited I have no idea what I’m going to do! Emotions are a funny thing in life. I think excitement is one of the best,
being a single dad that is. Just
the look of love and happiness rolled into one emotion staring up at you is
something words can’t describe.
The excitement in a child is as innocent as it gets. A love you can’t describe, a pure love
and hope for you. Laughter and
happiness, smiles and joy sometimes not seeing her for days even a week just
all disappears when I hear her voice and I get that big hug.
Being a single Dad has been one of the hardest things I’ve
ever had to do in my life. For a
divorce I still don’t understand till this day I is something that I just have
to accept and move on. I have been
trying when we go out to show her how excited I am so she knows some of the
things that Daddy loves to do. The
only thing I advise it please don’t use excitement in a bad way. Don’t taunt or tease your child with
it, don’t get them excited for nothing or give them false hope. Excitement maybe beautiful but it can
get ugly if used for the wrong reason or used to mislead. With excitement also grows trust, have
your child trust you and grow with you.
Don’t let them grow up disappointed or knowing what you do to excite
them will end in false hope. That
my readers is a tradady. When a
child just knows their parents excitement will end in false hopes.
Our children will always come back to us, always trust us,
love us. It is human nature, only
an event that is catastrophic will bring a child to finally give up on a
parent. I don’t even like thinking
about it. I’ve even heard Quinn
say “I’m sorry” if I get frustrated I feel awful and explain what is going on
and talk to her. I just don’t have
the time to loose over that. There
never is, but getting upset and working on behavior is another tip, for another
day…
Just always know that excitement is something to use for
good and be true when you do use it.
Don’t give false hope or pretenses.
Excitement…A little bit goes a long way…
"Excitement
is the drunkenness of the spirits. Only calm waters reflect heaven in their
bosom."
~Marguerite de Valois
Have a bless day and remember,
You are never alone…
Love
Christopher
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