Over the past weekend Quinn pulled
out all her toys! Now I haven’t
blogged about the past weekend yet but I will. We were getting ready to go out and get some things done and
I asked her to clean up her toys.
Now in the past I usually clean them up and get the area in order but I
am trying to instill that she has to start cleaning up or she will think I will
for her all the time. I told here
I was going up stairs to get ready and I wanted her to pick up her toys. She asked why, and I told her because
when we are done playing we clean up.
So I went upstairs and got ready for the day and when I came down there
room, well looked better.
The table was cleared off and the
toys were in a pile. It looked ok,
better but still needed some work.
I fixed it up a little and explained what needs to be done next
time. I was happy however that she
did some work and made an effort.
I was nervous for a while that nothing was going to get done. I know she is still growing but she
does understand rules and when I ask something she knows she needs to do
it. The early years are about
testing the waters and yes time outs.
Kids will be in them because they need to know we mean business! As far as cleaning up I told her if she
doesn’t then I will hide one toy every time, making clean up very easy if she
doesn’t start. She is 4 now and it
is a very touch age on parents, the child again is testing their boundaries and
maybe a little pushy. Others may
think it’s cute or to just let it slide but you can not. Parents have to instill boundaries and
rules. Yes, we are the bad
guys. Sorry just how it goes, I
always tell people “Every story needs a villain”. I use that when I have to be the “bad guy” even though it is
for the good of the child.
So how did all this come about from
toys? Well again kids are going to
play and then feel they can just leave things. Make sure they start to clean up. It will instill good habits for the long run as well as let
them know they have to listen to their parents and they can’t just have fun and
not have responsibility after wards.
Keep your cool parents, tell them we need to clean up because it is very
important. Help them at first and
then slowly step back over time.
Of course you will always have to help a little. Also let them know if they don’t there
are punishments. Of course follow
through as well to, if they fight you a good time out will always do the
trick. Put them in their room or
even cancel the event you are going to.
I know it seems bad but one of the hardest aspects of parenting is
following through with your words.
If you have to leave an event early or not possible go it can be sad and
very hard but your kids need to know you do not bluff! They need to know if Mommy or Daddy
says we are not going, we really aren’t going. Once they realize you’re not messing around they will start
to listen and not push you over.
Always also remember to go slow and
help them with things like clean up.
Do not just jump to telling them to pick up. Help them and show them were everything goes. Then when you are done tell them now
nice it looks and how easy it was!
Encourage them in a fun way how being responsible is fun and a good
thing! It will make it easier in
the long run and before you know it as they get older things like cleaning
their room, emptying the dishwasher and picking up after them selves will come
easy. Also remember this
phrase. “Because I said so” my dad
used that one on me a lot. Haha I can still hear it in my head. Kids are going to ask, “Why?” They love it, it is their favorite
word!!! If you tired to explain
something and it isn’t working, you can always just veto everything and say
that. You are the boss and you
don’t need a reason. I tell it to
Quinn because sometimes they just need to know they need to listen to us. Always keep your cool and keep control
don’t let them see what gets you upset.
They will grow and learn and with proper help become great parents like
us…
Try some tips and tricks and let me
know!
PS I do have a cute pic of the pile she made I just haven't uploaded it yet. I will in my weekend update!
Always remember,
You are never alone…
Love,
Christopher
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