Over the past several years of being a single parent and now married again I have shared so much with this community. I try to give you all tips and tricks as well as share the good along with the bad. Truth is some of the darker times go unnoticed just because as a blogger and advocate for single parents I know how hard it can be. I know the struggles and no matter what anyone says about the past they don't know anything. When you have a child with an ex the past is the present ever time you pick up your child. In the beginning it was confusion and frustration, then comes the day you pick up your child and see a new car in your driveway. The new guy moves into your home, uses all the things you worked hard for as you were forced out. All you can do is smile and say hi. As the years go on sometimes you feel it just takes a toll on you. Financial you work hard and it takes months not weeks to get where you need to be, just for something new to bring you back. Sometimes each year feels harder than the last and you feel life now is just against you. With a few good breaks just to keep you in the game all you can feel is that life and thrown you lemons...
This past weekend one of my best friends came home with his wife and our other best friend and his wife went out. The six of us all had a great time, we went to dinner, had some drinks and ate to much. We laughed and the girls who now know each other very well, we all just talked and for the few hours of the night forgot everything that was going on or that was troubling us. Nothing mattered because we had each other. The night continued with more laughing and just enjoying each others spirit's as they lifted one and others up. We ended with a camp fire at our place and had some drinks and snacks. With some music going and just fun conversation everything that is going on that night just melts away.
We are thankful for everything we have and for friends like the ones that love us. As the weekend moved on we hung out more and when we all came back to reality and work we had other struggles come up however they will be dealt with because spending time with your best friends gives you that sense of hope again. It refuels your drive and gives you the strength to keep going and never give up. The night was fun and well deserved with everyone having their own difficult times it's nice to just not have to always think or dwell on them. When Jim, Paul and I get together it is just a blast. We have been friends forever and know each other so well. We have been through so much and always been there for one and other. This is why when things get really bad I know going out with them will always help...
The girls have been our saving grace too. I can't tell you how awesome it is that we have them. Since we all met they have all gotten very close as friends and its a really good group when this happens. They all have been there for us and we them. We just depend on each other and that is what we need to do. We can't go through this alone and we can't be unhappy at the world. Finding love again was difficult for all 3 of us. We all had our different stories and backgrounds when it came to that but we all ended with the three amazing ladies above. As time goes on you know you have a keeper when they just won't leave even through the darkest of times. Kayla helps me out more than I could ever imagine. I have two amazing best friends and now met two new amazing woman that are there for them, not to mention Kayla who has do so much for me. We all came back from everything that we have lived through, we all even got married last year. All 3 couples, it was pretty cool too. As time goes on I know there are hard days but with woman like them, they don't seem bad at all...
Over the course of the years of being divorced I have learned you can hide some the issues or problems or even mask them but they always will come back. You have to address them and move on. However going out with friends and just letting your mind be at peace is something I would also recommend. Always take time to lean on your friends and even share your concerns with them. They will have encouraging words as well as a different outlook that may help you. I was always told to run to your problems not from them. You can accept some of the hard times in life but you have to fight through them, or they will take your life over and life is just to precious to give up...
So when life gives you lemons... Just grab some water, sugar and call your friends over...
You are Never Alone...
Love,
Christopher
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