When Quinn entered first grade I couldn't believe my little one was getting older. First grade now states they entered an era of the numbers! She is on her way to the top and she will have more responsibilities! You will see your little ones reading will get better as well as the homework will increase! This is a big age and you need to work on reading and math. They will be the basis of their foundation. Reading is so important, set time aside each night and some on the weekend to have them practice their reading. The great things now are there are books made for each age group and they are very well put together. When I was growing up they had baby books and younger ones but now there are books numbered 1, 2, 3 and so on. Give your child help as they read but don't do the work for them. They need to learn to read them selves, it is just so important.
One thing I have noticed about this age is that Quinn is getting to the point where she is very independent and being 7 she is getting just that much closer to understanding more and more about life and how things are done. She still puts up a fight here and there we notice but for the most part her screaming matches are slowing down. This age of their lives is hard not just for them but you for they can be more difficult. I am excited to see how she grows! Take your time with this age and just be mindful.
As they get older...
As your child gets older and if you are in a place where you are separated and your child moves back and fourth they may tell you they want to see you more. My Daughter started telling me this and it is hard because I ask for more time but her Mom doesn't want to share or give any up. To my single parents I say do the best you can. Tell your child you want them more and to have them even bring it up to the other parent. Let them gain some independence, you child is still small but is learning to grow and is starting to ask questions they have every right to. One of the hardest aspects when a child grows up is where they feel they want to spend more time. Something I will have to post later on. However parents I do hope you work together. It is sad to say the less I speak to my ex the better. There is no reasoning with her and even though she is a teacher and has so much time off she still fights to give anymore than what she has to. Only making it more difficult for the child because any parent that withholds time from the other is just not right.
As your child grows keep showing them one thing, that you love them so much. Be there for them, work hard and fight harder to show them you are there and nothing not work, a bad day or even your pain in the ass ex will every break them. Do not break, show them you will be there no matter what. Something I hear so much is, people tell me my daughter will see how I am treated how her Mom addresses speaks to me, doesn't respect me and they will one day realize this isn't right. I don't want my child to see this b/c its sad however there is a truth to what she should know... To my readers please just share your child, work together and for the safety of the child do what's right.
The Kindergarten is a fun stage and this is when your child is now in school! They will ride the bus. (if it applies) have homework start to fully learn and be responsible for their work and what they do. They can't cry to Mom or Dad anymore. This is their first step to entering the real world and the world of education. They will start to make friends go on play dates, and birthday parties. They will also be in school longer, a full day now! As they go through this stage you will see them grow and their education will grow significantly. They will start to do Math and write out sentences as well as they will need to start reading and spelling. Kindergarten is a the base to their education. The foundation to what they will know because this will introduce them to what they will do as they get older. It's just on a small scale.
As they come home be sure to ask them how their day was and what they learned. Interact with them because it will continue to stimulate their brains and keep them working. They will have more things on their plate now to like Art, Gym and even a lunch time. Your child will tell you who they sit with and how lunch goes. Make sure you listen, ask them who they sit with, how there teacher is and what subject they like most! You will also now have parent teacher conferences! This is where you can see where your child is progressing and where they may need help. Make sure you ask questions and see how you can help outside the classroom. If you are separated from your spouse go with them and show you are there. You need to make sure you are interacting and being a part. A teacher that sees both parents even though not together are working then its good for everyone!
However yes you don't have to be next to your Ex. I no longer go to Quinn's parent teacher conferences with my Ex because I just can't. I went once and didn't feel anyone cared. So now I just make time to go another day. When I went with Kayla it was great and the teacher had no problem. We talked about Quinns strengths and weaknesses and I got to ask questions and feel I was being listened to. I told the teacher anything urgent we both will be there, but non urgent issues to just make them separate and she totally understood. Teachers will, they will not care remember you are the parent and if you explain something like this they will make time to work around your schedule.
Being creative with some blankets and pillows or just relaxing on the couch if you child is with you the bond will grow. Sometimes I can tell she’s so happy just hanging out on the couch. She’s got her dad next to her and were just watching some TV or a movie. Winter is a time to be inside and let nature take a break. The earth needs a little time to rest as well. Get outside and run around in the snow or go to a movie or indoor facility. A play museum or nature center is always a great idea as well. What ever you do end up doing always include your child and do things they will enjoy because once they go back to their other parent you will have that emptiness come back and all the time in the world to try to hide it…