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Thursday, August 30, 2012

A great weekend to relax and stay cool

     This weekend was HOT, HOT, HOT!!!  This past weekend I had Quinn and it was a hot one!  I picked up Quinn on friday and well if you remember my last post about Leaving Empty Handed well it did start off that way.  Quinn didn't want to come home with me.  Her Mom and I talked and tried to get some things set but Quinn just didn't want to go.  She gave me the idea of picking up Quinn tomorrow and doing breakfast and trying from there.  I thought about it and I guess here my next actions out...

    I liked the idea because if Quinn really wants one more night I would be willing to let her stay.  I then asked her Mom if I could keep her into Monday.  I figured if I loose a day it would be nice to have an extra one right?  Sunday to Monday isn't that bad I though.  She said no, and I was upset but hurt because I really wanted us to just have that relationship where we could do this.  November will be my second year in the house and I have been good, we have our share of fights I know but seeing my daughter so little how can I not get a little frustrated.  I love being a Dad, I try to be understanding but I really am trying to get to that great point of working together.  Where we can call each other babysit or she would ask if I wanted her more, but honestly its not like that at all.  We talked about that sure before the papers were signed but after.  All gone...  Sucks...  Some people get alone better than other Ex's I guess, well were not like hating each other at least.   Yet...  

     So we got a little heated yes, I just felt Sunday to Monday would be nothing that big.  So I told her I will take her now.  I don't know what else to say, I'm not loosing anymore time, I don't see her that much as is, forget it.  So I walked over to Quinn who hid behind her Mom and picked her up.  Her Mom felt bad I could tell as she said she couldn't protect her.  She didn't fight but she cried, when I got her in she said goodbye to her Mom but I could tell her Mom was upset, she didn't say much and we drove off.  Quinn was upset because she didn't to say good bye like before but when we got home Hughey was over and we just played with her and got dinner.  Within minutes she was back to her old self.    So we got some fish and relaxed on the couch and just hung out.  She really loves Hughey and he is so good with Quinn and Quinn just loves him so much.

     I don't know, I am new at this and I hope I'm not making my case or anything I guess I though we would work more together and I guess it probably won't happen.  I honestly don't know what will happen in the future.  I just try my best to listen and work with her mom and just try to see Quinn when I can.  I do love being a Dad so much.

    In the end I do feel bad I do, but she is only 4 and sometimes they don't know how important it is to go and spend time with both parents.  I have picked her up since this post and it now is going well.  I will post about that soon.  The next day we got up and had breakfast and just relaxed.  It was such a hot day we stayed cool with some fans and watched some TV, played games, puzzles and just stayed out of the sun.  The night we stopped over my aunts real quick for dinner and played at the park for a minute.  Sunday we did pretty much the same thing, it was in the high 80's and just humid.  We did end up going to the park in the morning before the sun came out and took a walk but we ended up just staying safe inside away from the heat.

    Over all the weekend was great, I'm learning as a single Dad, some days are better than others and I'm trying my hardest to just get through one day at a time.   Enjoy the pics!


Friday she was her self in minutes!

Here she is with Eve!

Hughey stopped over!

We stopped at the park after dinner.

Picked some pretty flowers too.

Hughey Hung out with us Saturday night to!

We played shopping on Sunday.

We also made some popcorn.

She is adorable!

Monday, August 27, 2012

A Perfect End to a Hot Summer

It's that time again!! The Mikalojko's are coming to town!  Like my Last Year's Post It was a great end to, well this time a hot summer.  Jim and his sister Marisa came into town around the beginning of August.  Rob and his new bride couldn't make it out this year.  I was excited because Jim brought his girlfriend Megan home with him.  It was a blast I always look forward to them coming home for the week and I was waiting all year for it!

We got some news one of our other best friends Paul moved home, he came across some tough times and is coming home for a while.  In the beginning of the week I had to work and I ended up catching up with him mid week.  We had dinner and I took off Thursday all day to spend time with them.  At the end of the week we went to their cottage and spend time on the boat and just relaxed with some good food.  It was good to have two of my closest friends in town together.  Thursday we hung out and just relaxed.  We had lunch, ice cream and ended up helping Paul move some stuff downstairs in his new apt, well the rents basement...  Friday I worked and then got the munch and we headed over to Jims for dinner.  After we went down to Charlotte beach with everyone for ice cream and a walk down by the lake!  

Saturday Quinn and I hung out at the house and then we went to Jim's cottage for a day at the bay.  We got settled and then had lunch.  It was great that there were lots of other kids there.  Including Nora, Steve's daughter.  Jim's oldest brother.  We then went for a boat ride and got to just enjoy the beautiful sunset.  Later we went to home and relaxed.  We didn't stay to late this year it was very windy and Jim had to drive home the next day as well.  

I said goodbye to Marisa, Jim and Megan and we were off.  It was so good to see him again this year and always sad to see him go.  

The next day we went over to Paul's house for dinner!  It was so good to have some one on one time with them because Paul's parents haven't seen Quinn in so long.  Quinn got to play with Paul's neighboor's little daughter and they got along so well.  She actually had a power wheels and the girls drove it around.  Watching Quinn drive was just to funny.  I guess I got my work cut out for me when she's 16!  We had a wonderful dinner and just got to relax after.  Pauls parents just loved her.  

The weekend was a blast and I am sorry I am behind on my post!  The summer has been so hot this year and blogging has been difficult.  I haven't always been the best summer blogger.  Once the fall hits, which is soon I will be posting more.  We still have a lot to do and the year is far from over!!

Enjoy the pics!!

Here we are at jims!  Paul, Jim, Megan and my self.

The boys, and our Kodak Cooler.  Long child hood story, I will tell you later...

We got some Ice Cream!

Friday we took a walk by the lake!

My little cute one

Marisa Quinn and I

Jim and Megan

Saturday we hung out in her room!

Just playing around!

My little shy one

She loves playing in he room!

Here we are at the bay!

Mrs. M and the Girls!

Boat ride time!

Melissa and Nora, and Quinn!

Just chilling 

Those cute kids!

Marisa and the girls.

She was so good with them, Quinn loves her.

Uncle Jim joined in the fun!

Jim is so good with Quinn, she loves when he visits. 

The beautiful bay

Sunday at Pauls!

Pauls is so good with Quinn too...

Look out drivers...

There she goes...

We tried to leave and Quinn snuck in the dog house.
Maybe I should get one for the house!

She was so cute.

Uncle Paul and Quinn.

We had such a good week and now that Paul's home it will be good for Quinn to see her godfather more.  I always love when Jim comes home and I can't wait to go and visit him.  I can't wait to start posting more too!

We have a busy fall coming up and I am excited to say I can't wait to get started!